庸人自扰?

魂不守舍,患得患失是我这几天来的写照。
这两天一直睡不好,
思绪起伏很大,
不受控制地乱窜。
这是几天来的心情。

另外还有感触就是——小孩不容易教。
每天在一个学生家上课,
中午,他的表姐表哥堂哥堂姐哥哥放学回家,
没有一个叫人的,
我就算了,
老奶奶大大个地坐在那里,
从她身边经过好像当她透明似的,
家教不见了……

一个小二的表哥回到家,
袜子脱了,卷成“甜甜圈”随手乱扔,
叫佣人捡起来放在鞋子里,
自己冲上楼打游戏机,
过一会儿往楼下喊:
“马纳,make milk!”
小二了,还喝奶瓶!

小一的表姐,
因为早餐没有她要的菜,
居然索性不吃了。
佣人拿其他食物给她,
她还耍脾气叫她走开。

这些小孩如果没了佣人,
他们不知道还会不会穿衣脱鞋觅食?

生活素质提高,
科技日新月异,
带给人类的是利还是弊?
为了赚更多的钱,
父母辛苦工作,请女佣,
忽略了更重要的家庭教育。
认识一对夫妻,
他们在事业上都算是成功人士,
虽然比上不足,但比下却绰绰有余,
两个儿子严重缺乏家教,
来到别人家,进门不会叫人,
(现在又有几个会自动的?),
吃了东西,包装纸竟然还塞进主人沙发的缝隙里!

新一代子女接触的媒体多而广,
且不容易受到监管,
网上充斥的暴力,色情,破坏,在弹指之间垂手可“看”。
这或多或少传递着一个错误信息:
这么多人在做,没什么不对啊!
这几年,学校普遍着重考试成绩,
对这样的趋势真的是逆水行舟般艰苦。

或许我看到听到的大多数是负面的,
我好想知道更多更多美好的人性的一面。
天下本无事,庸人自扰之?
也许吧。

3 条评论:

Jesselyn Ng 说...

can't help but to comment on this one ...

when a child doesn't greet an adult, without prompting and for some, will still NOT greet an adult when prompted, and that is equate to no "home teach"? Really?

the child will think: Why MUST I greet you? What is so great about you? WHy is it that a greeting will determine my manners? Does it matter, I mean your opinion of me or even my parents' upbringing?

a child's character or personality is beyond just greetings or acknowledgement of an adult's presence, isn't it?

in some instances, the parents teach until they can resort to threatening the child for NOT greeting elders? But .... is this the price the parents have to pay (ie lose the child's heart) so as to save their own face?

家宝 说...

Hi Jess, appreciate the different viewpoint.Taken.
I wrote what i see and feel, I feel a greeting is not JUST a greeting and it reflects what a person thinks. And what a person thinks is part of his/her character. If a person thinks "what's so great about u that i must greet u?",there's nothing really great about anybody in this world. It's about basic respect for an elder, for somebody with authority, for a fellow human being.I've not seen someone with a great personality or character who doesn't have this kind of respect, yet.

If a parent teaches kids to greet in order to save their own face, then forget it, becoz their own intention is already incorrect.

But of course, u must understand that my post refers to the mainstream group of ppl.

Jesselyn Ng 说...

i used to think the way u think in ur post when i was single. but now, what matters most to me is the child's heart. True, a good and merry heart will flow pleasant manners and automatic greetings.

many a times, a child observes too many double standards in the elders and adults which do not warrant the respect. at times the child is taught too, not to be overly friendly with people whom they are not familiar with (just in case of being taken advantage of). I am one mum who does tell my daughter who she can greet.

having said all these, our children this generation is very different. and yet the heart issues are the same. they respect those adults who have earned the respect. they challenge authority more openly. winning them takes a lot on the adults who bother and think that they are worth it, but how many do bother if the children's parents themselves are not (or not enough time and energy).

i hear the way the school teachers scream at the classes in the upper pri levels, i really shake head. no one wants to be shouted at, no one. and these are teachers who think that the students MUST give them the respect. your wife taught in a mainstream sch, she knows...